Your dog seems to run your life, Carol.
Um, yep: And I am grateful for it. In talking with a fellow writer/dog mom friend recently, we mused over the fact that a large portion of society seem to speak without a filter. And a great deal of those unfiltered comments could really use a dose of reality: A fi-dose of reality, that is. There are ways to stop rude comments about your dog.
The rude comments that get thwarted towards those who define ourselves as dedicated dog moms and dads seem are becoming more and more rampant.
The thing that irks me most of us is when the comments come from complete strangers. If I wanted to be insulted, I’d call my blood relatives, I remind myself when walking away from a “what the hell just happened” moment.
Stepping Back to Move Forward
At the age of 46, I’ve learned that getting mad and allowing negative comments to tie me up in knots serves no purpose in my life. Speaking against naysayers and trying to educate the ignorant has become more the norm in my life. Of course, there are some folks who just aren’t worth educating.
I’ve written about rude people before and my reaction to their negativity commentary. I am not sure what soapbox some folks carry around and why they decide to use it on me from time to time, but I try. I try so very hard to educate and rehabilitate: So that the person stops their negativity before it gets any further along. I prefer to be part of the solution, not someone who perpetrates the cycle.
Want to read about how I stop naysayers who insult my dog? Click here.
Keep reading for this year’s installment of “It’s My Life, My Name’s on the Birth Certificate, Step Off, Buddy” – in other words: What I say to people who insult my dog. Feel free to use these comebacks, come up with a few of your own, or just plain ignore them.
“He eats well, doesn’t he?”
I mean seriously, would you walk up to a complete stranger and say that to another human being? Sadly, some people would (and do).
My dog is of a larger than normal Cocker Spaniel litter and I love every fiber of his being. His weight is just right, and his vet agrees. When his fur grows in and he is due for a trimming, he looks larger than he actually is. These are the times that complete strangers seem to get diarrhea of the mouth.
My response has been “that’s rude” or “my dog heard that and he doesn’t find it funny.” And one time when someone asked me how much he weighed, I asked them the same question.
If you walk around asking people or pets how much they weigh, mind your own business, please, unless you are my dog’s veterinarian.
No Life for You
“Your dog seems to run your life, Carol.”
Actual words said to me by a friend of a friend. I thanked her and agreed.
It pretty much shut her down. I’ve learned that the more my blog grows, the more my articles are published, and the more I share information about my love of dogs and passion of one pooch in paw-ticular, the more likely it is I will get flack.
Some people feel the need to hurl comments to hurt: I prefer to use words in the name of positivity. And if I have nothing nice to say….well, you know the rest.\
“Oh is that a Cocker Spaniel? They are snappy and will bite.”
I am so proud of myself for having the emotional fortitude to simply look at this person and say, “Like people, my dog is an individual and he cannot speak for himself. As his mom, please don’t stereotype.”
In his name, do your best to educate people. Or at least try. It’s been my experience that some folks can’t (or won’t) open their minds to change. But it’s worth trying.
“What? You had a birthday party for your dog?! That’s crazy.”
My comeback was in writing, but I managed to get this out: “Indeed. I even dressed up like a cat so Rover and all his furry friends can chase me around as a form of entertainment.”
And yes, I did have a dog birthday party. Click here for ideas on how you can plan a fun dog birthday party, too.
Maybe They Mean Well
“Sorry to hear your dog passed away last week. Think you’ll get another one?”
Actually, what you say depends on who is saying it. Some people have good intentions when they say this. When I experienced this after my dog Brandy Noel died, I was floored, often nodding a silent “no” and wondering what a good response is to such a statement. We don’t ask if someone will get another mother, father, or sibling, because we know they are not instantly replaceable. For some people, a dog is just that. Those of us in the know, well, we know better.
If you feel inclined to reply with dignity, something like, “Max isn’t replaceable, but my heart will let me know if and when it wants to open itself again” tends to work, and is respectful.
I’m not angry, I’m a dog parent, and I know I’m not alone. What negative questions, remarks, or actions do you encounter? Do you have any comebacks worth sharing?
As you think about it, my dog blogger buddy, Melissa Clinton, penned her take on rude comments made about dogs on her paw-pular blog, Barking from the Bayou. Head on over and please check it out!